>.. I lost my best friend today. She was my dog of almost five years now...I lost her to rabbis... I know it has nothing to odo with the kin world..but I needed some support. She is..was..the closet thing to me..besides farshief. I was just looking for some support to help me get through this.Its not about kin..or urgent..just something that is not helping my already bad life and I needed to get it out to someone

It must have been an awful shock for you, and of course you want to tell someone about it. I would say that this is exactly the right place to do that Izabella. Somewhere among friends.
Not everything in our lives is always about our Kin selves, some things are about our non-kin selves. Just because this is not kin related doesn't mean we wouldn't be interested. If you need us, we're here, no matter what for.
It always hurts to lose someone you love, especially to something as awful as this disease. It is very unpleasant and means that you have no time to adjust to the idea of losing your friend because it has to be dealt with very fast.
At least now she feels no pain, and can rest peacefully.
Poor little thing.
I am very sorry for your loss.

I found out after my grandfather helped her get out of misery, that her spinal cord had broke. She was practically dead before he got to "put her down" I know a few possibilities of how this could've happened. BUt There is no point in pointing fingers^_^ I am tryin to be optimistic. ^_^ Personally I think i took it harder than I should've..others disagree, but thanks for your support fallen kin!really helps

I am sorry for the loss of your Friend Isabella.
I know that losing a friend in this way is painful and may hurt for a while but don't hide it. There is no shame is letting yourt feelings be known and as Jardinn said this is an excellent place to do that.

This may be of little comfort right now but from what you said your grandfather did the right thing and made sure that she suffered as little as possible, which is from her point of view much better than lingering and having years of pain as some do.
She will be able to watch over you properly now.... Where ever you go. For her that is a really good thing.

Safe journey little one.

Zygo

Oh Izabella I'm so sorry.
I think your Grandfather did the right thing, and it must have been hard for him to do aswell. Especially as he would have known how much she meant to you.
But it really sounds like he had no choice, and I'm sure no-one in your family would have wanted her to feel a moments pain more than she absolutely had to. Especially not you sweetheart.
I don't think anyone can say how hard they should find something like this to deal with, it effects everyone differently, and I think you should just allow yourself to feel how you feel, for however long you need to. It will help you.
She was a very important and much loved person in your life and you are only acknowledging how you felt and feel about her. If it has hit you hard then let it, feel it and deal with it, then you will know that you can handle the feelings and they won't haunt you.
She died because your Grandfather loved her too much to let her suffer, so the last thing she felt was loved. That is all any of us can hope for at the end.

If you need to talk more about this then post about it and we'll listen. If you want to talk privately then PM me anytime and I will come onto MSN to chat to you about it.
As a forum we are here for you, and as a family we are here for you too.
And as your friend you can count on me I promise.
Much love and sympathy my sweet.

Lady C.

Thanks for the support I am doing better today. My home is quiet and i don't have a shadow..I'm missing her..but that will heal in time. My mother tryin to make it better promised me a annoying chawawa..I told her i don't like them..they are annoying.. but I am better. thanks for the support. The Castle has been a big help to me!

Oh what a dreadful thing to happen. It's always so sad to lose a friend, but more so when it is sudden and unexpected. What kind of dog was she and what was her name?

You don't have to think it's wrong to be as upset as you are, if it's what you feel then you can't help it. You loved her, and you miss her, and of course the fact that she's not around must leave an awfully large space in your life, that nothing else can fill, and will remind you all the time of her and the fact that she is not with you anymore, so it makes sense that you'd be upset. I think that perhaps it might be a little early to think about getting another dog, if you don't feel ready then it is obviously too soon for you, but eventually you might want another friend. After all she wouldn't want you to be alone, she will want to see you happy again.
But for now maybe the best thing is just to live with the loss for a while, she was a big part of your life. No-one can tell you how long it will take to be able to think about her and remember good times and not only feel sadness that you lost her, but also happiness that you knew her and she loved you as you loved her. Only you will know when the time is right for that.
I wish there was something I could say that would make it easier, but there is nothing really. If you would like to talk about it I should be on MSN tonight and would be happy to chat if you think it might help. If you don't want to don't worry about it, it's OK. :
I send my sympathy and affection, and hope they help in some way.
Hopefully, your friend.
Kes.

I am sorry 2 hear about ur friend i hope you feel better soon if theirs anything i can do just pm me and i'll try and help you the best i can

OK this is my second message here today, for some reason I hit the post button on the last one before it was finished, so it had to be deleted!
That's me not concentrating.
As I said before I am really sorry about your sad news, please pass on my sympathy to your family, they must miss her too.
I'm sorry I missed you on MSN last night, I really wanted to chat to you, but I was talking to someone and couldn't get away to say hi.

I'm glad to see you are feeling better.
I hope we can talk soon. Maybe tonight if I don't get hijacked again.

Sorry about this.

C.

I never know what to say about things like this, but it is very sad and I'm sorry Izabella.
It's good to hear you feel a bit better though.

I'm soo sorry that you had to lose your poor dog and in such a way. I know it seems hard but ending the suffering was the best thing to do- not only did you help your best friend to peace but you also allowed her to keep some dignity. I'm sure she has had nothing but the best life with you.

I remeber when my old dog had to be put to sleep. I had had her in my life scince I was one and I think she was 11 when it happened. I went down to her and coaxed her out of her basket like I did everyday but that day she didn't move. I tried to pick her up but she collapsed. She had basically lost all motion in the back of her body. It was either keep her alive and in pain and do everything manually for her (she wouldn't have even been able to go to the toilet alone) or put her to sleep. Although I didn't have a choice in the matter I still feel it was the right thing to allow her to move on. My nan also had to go through a similar thing with her chiuahua (long haired and not as ugly as you'd think, I swear he was part papillon).

But trust me I know the pain. I know it'll really hurt for a long time but in the end what you're left with is a memory and a friend that'll never leave you. All the painful memories will seem weak compared to the fondness you'll always keep. Hope this helps. *hugs*