That is all I was saying.
Not all of us are the same, we are not all suited to a long term relationship for the many and varied reasons life brings us.
To me as long as both give and both recieve in any situation, both are happy, and treat each other with respect. That is a GOOD relationship. However long it lasts.
Be safe, be honourable and have fun, because this is not a rehearsal, no matter how many times you ride the roller coaster enjoy the ride! It's supposed to be fun.
And whatever way brings you what you need, have fun with it.

DA, I should like to buy you a drink some time.
Nothing funny. Just a drink and conversation.
You are interesting and I think maybe one of the good guys.
Yes, in a cowboy film you would definitely wear a white hat.

And Jardinn,
My life doesn't suit everyone, but it suits me just fine and you are right I'm happy.
Good fortune to you.

Erm firstly where does it say that we can only post once on each topic?? I must have missed that bit.

OK I can see both sides of this.
I thought Legtimize made his point with his first post and then realised he could have missed something important to him, prompted by Shade's reply, and posted underneath to add that bit.
Unfortunately after reading Shade's reaction I took another look from a different perspective and I saw how it could look like he was replying to Shade and that wasn't a very polite reply if it was taken in that context, and so I can see where Shade might have gotten a little upset.

I think this is a misunderstanding which should teach us to be careful of other's feelings, and how another might misread what is written. Or at least misinterpret the reasons behind it and the reaction it is supposed to bring.
I have to confess though that I don't think telling her to calm down or implying that she is over-reacting was such a smart move Legitimize. Read the way she read it it wasn't very kind. It could easily have been interpreted as you calling her a, well, lets say it's not a name used in polite company such as this, just because she personally isn't looking for love.
Not the best way to make friends.

You are absolutely right Faith there is no-where on this site that says you can only leave your opinion once, and especially for DA there is no-where that says you must only have one opinion, so if any of your personalities want to leave conflicting posts DA you tell them I say it's OK to go ahead and do just that.

Shade I really do not think Legitimize meant what might have been read into his second post. I think the timing was just unfortunate, and that Faith's idea of his memory being jogged into adding something else prompted by your post might not be far off the mark.
I do not think he meant to imply that you were a woman of easy virtue (oh what an old fashioned phrase that is, but the most polite way of putting it that I could think of. lol)
He truly is not that kind of person.
I know you don't know him, but I do and you can trust me when I tell you he would never insult someone that way.
He's a nice person, so if you could believe me when I say that and look at some of his other work, I'm sure you will see the truth of my words.
Now I am going to leave this thread.
But first I will say that my love has followed me thorugh time. We have been a couple almost since forever and we will always be. We always find each other, in each and every lifetime someone or something will bring us together. This time I await him still, but I feel him. He is here, but the time is not yet right. I always grow impatient with the waiting.

If you are willing to vouch for the fact that he is not some snot brained half wit who thinks it is a great idea to put other people down then I will take your word for it.
As I trust you Lady C.
Your word is good enough for me.

OK then Legitimize as you have Lady C's seal of approval, you have my apologies for responding to your post in such a defensive way.


Shade.

Thank you for defending me Camille, and thank you for apologizing Shade.

~Legitimize

Did you blank it out Lady C?
Can I have it???
And if DA turns you down you could take me out for a drink anytime!

I like a woman who knows what she wants and takes no prisoners. So to speak!

And I'm not so bad looking............ Honest.
DEA.

lol Too bad DEA, I would gladly take Shade up on that offer of a drink and fine conversation, I'm sure it would be quite enjoyable for the both of us. I'll have to give you a ring if I'm ever in that part of the world Shade, or vice versa if you are ever in my part.

As well, I'm glad my other personalities are able to post as well, I"m sure they will be quite happy with that news lol.

~DA~

Having just been dumped, (that's why I haven't been here for a while) I think 'boys are all horrid' right now.

He said he couldn't be around someone who wasn't fully committed to his needs. I don't even know what that means.
But I think it has something to do with not liking to watch him play pool all night and asking him if we could go to the pirctures instead.
Drinking beer is not that much fun for heavens sake. And I was watching him drink beer all night nearly every night and play pool.
I think it did take me a while but I may be getting over him.

Anyway relationships suck and all boys are horrid.

I'll agree with watching someone drink beer is quite boring, and truthfully, i wouldn't touch the stuff if my life depended on it. I tend to stick to harder liquors myself, but that's beside the point at the moment. to tell the truth, sounds like this guy wasn't quite into the relationship as you were, specially if he things you should cater to all his needs first and for most. It can't always consist of you watching him play pool all the time, there has to be some things you want to do mixed in there. And lastly, not all boys are horrid, just the ones that still act like children and know nothing of love.

~DA~

He doesn't deserve you. What about being fully committed to your needs? It's hard finding those that are open with themselves and others and are honest, trustworthy individuals who both deserve and give respect. There's very few, but if you want one, i'm positive you will find him and you will make each other very happy.

when i was reading these posts i came across shade's post where she said relationships tend to sound like being owned, like you belong to them. I agree. Part of me wants to run screaming from ever being kept, and then part of me wants to belong to someone, as long as that someone belongs to me too. one sided ownership smells too much like slavery, and that just makes me angry. But i dunno, something about having a partner who is mine and i'm his makes me all warm and fuzzy inside, a safe harbor as well as something to protect. only thing is in order to have such a relationship there needs to be a lot of trust, and i have a few issues with trusting people. mostly because most people have short memories and change their minds more often than the moon shifts. but i'm a shameless romantic so i'll keep hoping, and waiting.

I think Shade may have trust issues, but then who hasn't?
People should be incredibly grateful if they have managed to find that special someone for their lifetime.
The truth is that such happiness tends to be far too fleeting and short lived to be trustable, and most people end up being hurt at some point.
Having been 'owned' I can vouch personally for the fact that it is neither a healthy or romantic experience.
He chose my house, my funishings, my clothes, my friends, my occupation, my leisure activities and my food.
Needless to say the romance soon tarnished and the marriage followed soon after.
My freedom has been hard earned and I am not ready to even think of relinquishing it for anyone, anytime soon.
However I am a romantic to the very core of my being. I love being treated like the most special person in the universe for someone, and treating them the same way in return.
I love pretty things and being comfortable. There is for me nothing better than cosying up in front of a blazing fire on a cold winters night with the man of my dreams, drinking wine and listening to music. But the man of my dreams remains firmly where he is. In my dreams.
So I share my fireside with Zygo when I am not on the computer in my room. We sometimes sit and watch movies on the TV, or talk about, well, my goodness if it exists we've talked about it.
He is a fabulous man, with a kind heart and a generous spirit. He is my best friend and I am so lucky to know him.

Ok Zygo, now you'll have to work twice as hard here because I was so nice to you.

Lady C.

Hey I didn't know you and Zygo were an item.
Go you two!

Faith.

We're not an item Faith.
Zygo very kindly took pity on me when I desperately needed somewhere to stay.

He's a wonderfully generous person and the best friend it is possible to have.
I really don't know what I would have done without him this past year. He came to my rescue like a true knight in shining armour, even though he was having his own nightmare at the time and I'm so grateful to him.

There is no romance.
Just real and deep affection.

Lady C.

I hope I can be some help to you Katie. Relationship can be good and bad.
Depending on the type of person(from a human prospective). If you like a guy or girl be yourself. Me being a guy I don't really know much how the feminine mind works but guys can be a pain in the neck at times. We tend to(well some) get into a lot of fights and other stupid stuff. But honestly if you like someone whoever it is just be yourself. Be confident. and don't fall to any pressure. Some guys like to pressure girls into things but I believe you know the person well enough to know if they are the right one. But one thing don't say you love that person in a girl/boy relationship unless you absolutely mean it. Some girls mostly teenage girls are not very knowledgeable of the word "love' and tend to throw it around. hopefully I was able to help you in some way. I know a lot of people say thing like this but it is true. I found this out myself. It is the least I could do for you helping me set foot in the direction I need to go. Thanks again.

no problem! and thank you, aziz!